Things I Shouldn’t Say (But I’m Going to Anyway)

Let’s just start here, this blog isn’t cute. It’s not curated. It’s not me pretending to be someone I’m not so I can sound more professional.

This space is for all the things I’ve held back, the sh*t I’ve said behind the scenes, and the things I wish more women heard before they talked themselves out of booking a session.

So if you’re here expecting fluff, you’re gonna be disappointed. But if you’re here for the truth, welcome to She Said What She Said.

Let’s go.

1. You don’t need to fix yourself first. You don’t need to lose weight, get your life together, buy new lingerie, or suddenly love your body before you book. You are not a project, you are not a “before,” and you’re definitely not required to earn this experience.

2. You don’t have to be confident to do this.If I had a dollar for every woman who walked in saying, “I’m so awkward,” I’d be answering these emails from a beach in Spain. You’re not awkward, you’re just not used to being seen. Confidence doesn’t show up first, it shows up mid-shoot, right after the holy sh*t moment when you realize, “Wait, I look hot as hell.”

3. It’s okay to book this just for you.Not for your partner, not for an anniversary, not because someone gave you a gift card. You can do this just because you need to feel something again, just because you’re tired, just because you miss yourself.

4. Crying is normal. Like, really normal.I’ve had women sob halfway through changing outfits. I’ve had women hold it in until they got to the car. I’ve cried with clients in the middle of a set. This isn’t just about posing. Sometimes this is the first time they’ve looked at themselves without judgment. That’s heavy, and that’s real.

5. You are not too much.Too loud, too soft, too curvy, too quiet, too sexual, too broken, whatever “too much” someone told you you were? You’re not.You’re just not meant to shrink into a version of yourself that makes other people more comfortable. And this space? It’s built for the real you.

This blog is called She Said What She Said for a reason. I’m not here to water it down, I’m here to talk about the messy, magical, complicated thing that happens when a woman finally decides she’s done waiting.

So if you’re into that, keep reading. I’ve got a lot more to say.

Jess